- Seduction. Manipulating you with charm and flattery, and playing on your need for approval.
- Lying. Telling blatant lies, misrepresenting the truth, or being deliberately vague.
- Denial. Refusing to admit they’ve said or done something, which can make you begin doubting yourself.
- Selective Inattention. Deliberately brushing you off by actively ignoring your requests or e-mails.
- Diversion. When asked a question, changing the subject to throw you off course.
- Guilt. Using your conscience and desire to be a good person to control and manipulate you.
- Shaming. Putting you down and using sarcasm and critical comments to make you feel so inadequate that you give in to them.
- Playing the Victim. Using exaggerated complaints about their hardships to make you feel sorry for them so they get what they want.
- Feigning Ignorance or Confusion. Playing dumb, or acting like they don’t know what you’re talking about, which can throw you off balance and make you doubt yourself.
Do any of these tactics sound familiar? Have you ever been emotionally ambushed by a coercive friend, coworker, or family member? Knowledge is power. Recognizing these tricks can help keep you from being ambushed.